I didn’t sleep very well last night, mainly because I was tossing and turning with lots of things on my mind, so please forgive me if I seem more jumbled that usual today. I promise, I have some valid points in this post, even if I’m unable to sting a coherent thought together. That being said, I’m just going to go with bullet points. Because everyone loves bullet points. Obvi.
(Heads up: all these bullet points really fall under two categories: M. And puppehs. Just go with it.)
- I made M watch the move “Love Actually” with me last night. And despite his protests, and the fact I’m sure he will deny to the day he dies, he actually LIKED it. Yes, that’s right. Colin Firth searching the streets for his Portuguese love? Riveted. Was. M. Even though he was trying to mask it by half paying attention, doing job stuff on the computer. Yeah, you can’t fool me, M. I saw that look in your eyes. And at the end? Yeah, I know you thought that little boy was adorable as hell too- and when he said “let’s go get the shit kicked out of us by love…” your laugh? Priceless.
- Speaking of job stuff, M, I know you have a couple interviews set up today for some temp and long term positions with staffing firms. I’m so excited for you, and I know you’re gonna be great. I’m praying for you babe, and I hope the rest of bloggy land is too.
- Oh, one more thing M: please don’t be upset your puppeh decided to get up this morning and walk over top of you to the other side of the bed and snuggle up next to ME this morning. Like, head on the pillow, laying down, acting as a body pillow type snuggling. I can’t help it I’m so damn lovable. I know the puppeh loves his daddeh, but guess what: I think he’s may be starting to see me as his mommeh (oh, i hope!), which therefore means he loves me too. I’m not even going to bring up the fact how he followed me around the apartment all last night. And lay at the bathroom door while I showered, guarding the door. And then when I was on the phone with my darling cousin and crawled up on my bed, while you were in the tv room, and the puppeh followed me and jumped up and sat down next to me while I chatted? Yeah. Definitely won’t speak of those. Oh, and not to mention afterward, how he climbed up on the couch and snuggled up next to ME? Yeah, I definitely don’t bring those instances up. SO THERE. Okay, so maybe I just did. MUAHAHAHAH. Wow. OK. Moving on.
- AND SPEAKING OF PUPPEHS. OK, I’m done with the bullet points for now, because this is deserving of a freaking paragraph. Or a few. Really. Because it struck a nerve. Which, in turn, translates to: Barbie = Infuriated.
I’ll be frank, I’ve received bitchy comments before from readers on my blog. And in moderating them, I’ve allowed them, for freedom of speech and what not. In light of recent M events, many people have had their opinions and I have not “publicly” harassed them, because, whatev. Fine. I can deal with you not agreeing with my decisions in relationships and what not. But when you attack my character? THAT’S personal. You bet your sweet ass I’m going to say something.
I am a full-blooded Leo, and my claws will come out.
You may remember “cindylou who” way back in May, who, had something to say about my lack of work ethic and finding a job. Yeah, she was a sweetie, wasn’t she? Well, it appears we have another commenter who has taken things one step too far. And being that it is MY blog, and when you write things to me, you are subjecting yourself to a public airing of your questionable “behavior.” Be glad that I’m not Dooce, and displaying your email address for all to know and see, and bombard you with emails, questioning your mere principals, actions and character as a woman and “mommeh.” (Hi, Dooce if you’re reading this!!!! Which, you probably aren’t, but oh well, I think you rock, by the way!!!)
Yes, that’s right, “dolly,” I’m speaking to you. About your lovely comment you left me last night on this post. For everyone’s sake, let’s read what you wrote, shall we?
I have a lab x pup which I’m also in love with ! I have to say though having read through these posts that some people treat pups like toys ! They should never be placed where they can fall from a height – for obvious reasons. They may be very supple but their joints are immature and if subject to shock i.e jumping, falling off furniture etc they can become painfully arthritic when adult. Pups should not sleep with you ! WATCH THE DOG WHISPERER. PLEASE GET EDUCATED ABOUT BEING A DOG OWNER IF YOU LOVE YOUR PET ! XX
So, let me get this straight. In one foul swoop, you’ve managed to not only denunciate my ability to act as a responsible adult, but also managed to call into question my maternal instincts?
Let’s get something straight here, woman. I do not come into YOUR home and tell you how to live your life, raise your pet, child, whatever. How dare you insinuate that I view B as a “toy.” Simply because I have different views on how to raise MY dog, does not justify the reason, or give you the right to tell me that I am an uneducated, irresponsible sorry excuse for a pet owner. If nothing else, your comment gave me a heightened respect (that was already pretty damn high) to all of the “mommy bloggers” out there for putting up with commenters such as yourself who are, apparently, omnipotent.
I may not be perfect or at times the sharpest knife in the drawer, but I’m smart enough to know that those in glass houses shouldn’t cast the first stone…and I’m betting that despite your high and mighty attitude, you’re in desperate need of Windex in some areas of your life, for you to write such a maliciously backhanded and bitchy statement. It all comes down to respect. Granted, you’re entitled to your opinion, but for the record?
Save your snippy, judgmental comments for someone else; they are most certainly not welcome here.
December 19, 2007 at 11:55 am
I’m still pissed off about this too. For starters, it’s your blog where you express yourself safely, not a place for people attack you.
Then there’s the whole issue of did she read any other posts about B? Like how you researched getting a dog an what kind of dog and all of that stuff for months before you got a dog?
I mean did she really one post about an ACCIDENT and decide she’s the be all end all on raising dogs?
AGH! I just cannot stand people like this.
But I <3 you!
December 19, 2007 at 12:05 pm
Lol. You crack me up.
December 19, 2007 at 12:08 pm
I cannot believe someone said that to you! You are awesome BB, how can someone judge you just by reading one post? I hate that- people come onto my site, and email me calling me a slut. One woman wrote “no wonder you can’t keep a man”. I wish I had the balls to stand up to it like you did!
December 19, 2007 at 12:15 pm
your puppeh is so cute i dont even remember what miss Judgy McJudgerson said, oh wait yes i do and she should shove it
that being said, i am a “love actualy”aholic, cant get enough!
December 19, 2007 at 12:18 pm
Puppehs!! I am such a dog person. Love the puppies.
Um, yeah, agree with you on the point about the comments. Everyone raises their pups differently. Luckily you have a blog to vent on!
December 19, 2007 at 12:19 pm
wow. way to take it in stride BB! and i love when Dooce calls people out on her blog too. it’s hilarious.
December 19, 2007 at 12:23 pm
I’m glad you are calling this person out on their shit, especially since we all know how much thought and care went into choosing and raising your dog.
Also, I’m sending many positive thoughts to M for his interviews today!
December 19, 2007 at 12:24 pm
Ugh, people frickin suck. And now that I can? I let BOTH dogs sleep with me EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. Take that, dolly. What a gay name, by the way, and also? Get a life. No one cares. And for real? Watch The Dog Whisperer? Seriously. She’s got to be kidding.
love you
oxoxoxox
December 19, 2007 at 12:25 pm
I’m really screwed, as I have no idea who the hell the dog whisperer is!?
December 19, 2007 at 12:33 pm
Ooh, people like that make my blood boil. Did I tell you about that time a lady just like “Dolly” stopped me and my husband in the Lowe’s parking lot? No? Well, LET ME TELL YOU.
Okay, so Lydah (my German Shepherd) was about a 5 month old puppy, we were taking her out to my in-laws at the lake for Father’s Day, and we had to run into Lowe’s for about 3.7 minutes to grab one thing. We cracked all the windows, made sure Lydah had her chew toy, and jogged into Lowe’s.
3.7 minutes later, we came out of Lowe’s, jogged right back to our car where Lydah was sitting there, happy as can be, and there she was. This freaking lady, she stood right next to our car, WAITING for us to come out, just so she could share her oh-so-valid opinion.
(imagine super whiny bitch voice) “Do YEEEWWW know what it would be like to sit all afternoon with the windows up in this hot car?? DO YEEWW?”
(imagine me, getting somewhat pissed, but not really being able to believe she is for real) “Umm, well, we were in there for less than 5 minutes and all the windows are cracked and the puppy is fine…”
(even bitchier voice) “Well! I’d like YEEEWWW to have to sit in this hot car, all alone and SEE HOW YOU LIKE IT!”
(me and my husband are now looking at each other in complete amazement, and we are both SUPER PISSED. Also, he is Italian, so he kind of takes it from here) “Well, MA’AM, why don’t you get into your car, roll all the windows up, and sit there for 5 minutes while I stand right here. And THEN YOU CAN GET OUT AND TELL US HOW IT WAS.”
(bitchy lady is now retreating and looking a little less vengeful) “Well, I’m just saying, ummm, you should see how it feels, sitting in a car…ummm.”
(I am so mad now I can’t see straight)”Lady, we are GREAT PET OWNERS. You have no idea who you’re talking to, what you’re talking about, and I agree, you need to just get back in your car and sit there and MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS, BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT”
My husband and I get into our car, drive away, and it takes us at least half an hour to get our blood pressure back down. People who see one thing (or hear one thing) and make grand sweeping assumptions and then TELL YOU THAT YOU DON’T TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR BABIES need to die. That’s right, they all need to just go somewhere and die. Or, have to listen to each other gripe all day. That might be worse anyway.
December 19, 2007 at 12:35 pm
Lucy has slept with me since she was a baby, and she is one of the most well behaved dogs you will ever see. SO FUCK YOU BITCHY COMMENTER.
December 19, 2007 at 12:51 pm
That woman has totally crossed the line from dog lover to crazy dog person. If Kodiak wasn’t so big and hairy (collecting whatever he walked through outside) he would sleep in bed with me!
December 19, 2007 at 12:56 pm
What would she say to me about my post where the dog ate something he wasn’t supposed to and had to have surgery? Accidents happen. That’s why they are called accidents. It doesn’t mean I don’t love my dog or are a bad pet owner, he’s a dog. He gets into shit. Seriously woman.
December 19, 2007 at 1:01 pm
ellie sleeps in bed with me. she has blankets that she’ll usually lay on but by the time we wake up she’s in bed with us.
i agree – bia doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I feel lucky that i don’t have those kind of commenters at my blog yet – but i have had my fair share back in my livejournal days. Not fun but you know you’re a good mum to your pup, so just be like what of it bia. Show her who’s boss
Love Actually = favorite movie ever.
December 19, 2007 at 1:34 pm
Boo on the nasty commenter! That was uncalled for. She’s certainly high and mighty, thinking she’s the go-to source for dog owners, doesn’t she? WHATEVER. My pup sleeps in the bed with me! I wouldn’t have it any other way!
BTW…do we get to see pics of M’s puppeh?!
December 19, 2007 at 1:37 pm
That was totally uncalled for and I’m glad you called her out. In other news, so happy the puppeh loves you as his mommeh and I’m not surprised ONE BIT because you are fantastic!!!
Oh and I *heart* love actually too!
December 19, 2007 at 1:46 pm
Umm the Dog Whisperer teaches you how to train a dog; not about puppeh safety. Soo what is she even talking about??
I made my ex watch Love Actually and he put up a huge fight, said it was lame, etc. And then by the end I was falling asleep and he was making all kinds of noises while seriously watching. He couldn’t help himself. They never can!!
December 19, 2007 at 2:01 pm
1. Love Actually? Saves the day, everytime.
2. Somehow, I think someone watching the Dog Whisperer and telling you how to raise your pet is like someone watching Emeril once and applying for a chef position in a five-star restaurant.
3. I still heart you!
4. And I want a puppeh. Or a kitteh. We’ll see.
December 19, 2007 at 2:34 pm
Dear Barbie,
Hi, it’s me. Please remind me to never piss you off. thanksbye.
Pi love and mine,
cici
December 19, 2007 at 2:34 pm
Does this mean that since I don’t watch any tv shows about raising my cat that this makes me the WORST PET PARENT IN THE WORLD?
People are crazy.
Oh and Love Actually = the best ever!
December 19, 2007 at 3:25 pm
What a bi-otch! I’m dreading my first “attack-on-your-personal-character” comment.
December 19, 2007 at 3:45 pm
Eww, BITCH.
On a happier note: how cute is it that M really secretly enjoyed Love Actually?
December 19, 2007 at 3:50 pm
I read your comment (after I woke up, and yes I MAY have slept in until 1pm. So what?!
) and I came straight here, because seriously, I hate when people try and tell you (or me or anyone) how to live.
But seriously, as much as I hate people that talk bad about my Barbie, I think we should do what Kate over at Sweet | Salty does. She and her community completely ignore comments like that. She agrees with their right to say that stuff, but they all agreed that people like that don’t deserve the respect of a response.
Except in extreme cases, which this is, obvi.
I heart you girl. You did a very good job of tongue lashing. A MILLION XO’s
December 19, 2007 at 4:07 pm
I think BHF secretly loves Love Actually too. It has been added to our holiday must-watch-every-year collection. In fact, on Saturday night at a party I met someone who looked familiar but I couldn’t figure out why. Hours later it dawned on me – Aurelia from Love Actually! She also looked a bit like Jessica Biel.
Anyhoo, stupid commenters suck. Balls.
December 19, 2007 at 4:38 pm
Love Love Actually. My M likes it too
.
Don’t pay attention to nasty commenters (unless you’re putting them on shout, which is amusing.) Anyone who has enough time on their hands to post something mean to someone they know over the internet is…just weird.
http://www.sparkel.wordpress.com
December 19, 2007 at 5:00 pm
My bf likes “Love Actually” too. Granted he actually admitted to it, but I just love that movie.
Secondly, I’m glad you blasted that dolly person. I think your blog is your place to blog about what you want and is not a place for people to preach to you. Maybe offer suggestions here and there but never call you names and demean you, I’m glad you said something.
December 19, 2007 at 5:22 pm
So because she watches the dog whisperer suddenly she IS the dog whisperer? If she knows all about pets, then why isn’t she famous and have her own tv show? GAH the nerve of some people. I’m sure if you were to take a look at the way she takes care of her dog and were to critique her? I’m sure she’d be singing a much different tune.
On another note, I LOVE LOVE LOVE “love actually”. I am bringing it with me on vacation so i can watch and rewatch it over and over again. I may be slightly obsessed. Slightly.
December 19, 2007 at 7:27 pm
BB – I heart you girl – you tell her and then some – for whatever reason some people feel they have the right to educate you on something you don’t need further knowledge on and if you did – well – you’d ask..love the way you handled it
December 19, 2007 at 9:05 pm
way to go, BB! seriously, if your M’s puppy loves you like you describe, you’re clearly pretty amazing. pets know. they sense.
and people? they’re just…lame.
way to go for calling her out. you did it very well. and i support you…not that that means anything whatsoever.
December 19, 2007 at 9:22 pm
Boo-ya Barbie! You tell her!
And, see, Puppehs love you… so that’s saying something, right??
December 19, 2007 at 11:33 pm
a) i LOOOOOVE love actually!
b) WRITING IN CAPS DOES NOT MAKE YOU SUPERIOR TO MY SIS k, dolly? kthanksbai.
December 19, 2007 at 11:42 pm
I think the person who left that comment had to have been drunk.
December 20, 2007 at 1:10 am
eww that mean commenter is sooooooo lame!!!
i totally let my puppeh and BOTH of my kittehs sleep in the bed with us! especially since it gets really cold in our house at night, and i worry about my little puppeh cuz she shivers!
if that makes me an IRRESPONSIBLE pet owner, then so be it.
oh, and kick rocks, dolly.
December 20, 2007 at 1:50 am
lol, that got me all riled up. Well done. I think you now have enough people to destroy miss dolly
(love actually rocks!)
December 20, 2007 at 9:00 am
Part of the upside of being single is that nobody has made me watch Love, Actually.
(Says the dude who watches Gilmore girls re-runs.)
December 20, 2007 at 10:06 am
My dog sleeps with us every night and we wouldn’t have it any other way. And when we say, “move over!”, she moves and that’s all we care about!
December 20, 2007 at 4:36 pm
Love Actually is such a good movie and I’m probably not supposed to divulge this information to the internets, but TB LOVES it. In fact, HE made ME watch it the first time I ever saw it.
Also, eff the haters.
December 20, 2007 at 5:32 pm
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January 1, 2008 at 10:07 am
well said! i dont understand why people bother to read other’s blogs if they’re just gonna be mean-spirited and bitchy.