I was hired as a wedding planner for one of my very best friends. I’ve also gone to a BUNCH of weddings. And have been in a BUNCH of weddings. A lot of my friends are married, and/or engaged, so I understand the dramas of +1’s. And all the drama/stress/whathaveyou they entail.
I do, I get it. I really, really do.
As we all know, I’m heading to Boston for a wedding for the couple who were my very first Boston friends. No, I do not know anyone but maybe one or two other people at this wedding, and yes, they are groomsmen in relationships. The bride is from the Midwest, and doesn’t really have a lot of friends in Boston.
The wedding is at a super shi shi place, which is costing thousands and thousands of dollars. Therefore, I understand why there is no +1 after my name. I get it. I do! I wasn’t even mad! A tad annoyed, because I would have liked to have the option, but I get it; recession, economic times, their wedding, blahblah, it’s cool. Really, no drama here. I understand I’m not in a serious relationships therefore validating a reason to have a +1. I’m there to toast and celebrate your love and commitment.I am your friend (albeit single) and there to support you. (The cute single guys at the wedding are an added bonus.)
HOWEVER.
When the following takes place? I think I have a reason to be like, “seriously?” What did my single self ever do to you? Does it make you feel better that you have someone for eternity and I will end up an old cat dog lady?
/…..
Scene: Tuesday Morning, 7am; Logging into Facebook
“You Have 1 New message from Bride-to-Be”
BB: (Internally) Hmmm. What’s this?
Message Reads:
From: Bride to Be
To: Hotness; Blogging Barbie
Message: Hotness, meet Barbie….Barbie meet hotness…You two will certainly get along well! Make sure to meet early in the night!
BB: (Internally) Score! This is awesome! He is hotness…and that was awfully kind of her to make those introductions with allof the little details she’s been dealing with. I’ll have to thank her. That was really sweet. Maybe married people aren’t so bad in the fact they enjoy humiliating their single friends at weddings.
/……
Scene: Tuesday Afternoon, 3pm; Gmail Chat
BB: Hey! I’m so excited to see you! Thanks so much for that introduction, he’s hotness!
Bride-to-Be: Can’t wait to see you too, I’m so excited!!!! Oh, Hotness? He’s Gay.
/…..
Seriously? I’m speechless. Face? Meet palm. W.T.F.
June 16, 2009 at 7:53 pm
Ouch, I’d be annoyed too. Maybe Groom-to-Be has some hot friends you’ll meet at the wedding. Pretty lame on Bride-to-Be’s part though. I hope the weather clears up for your visit–it’s supposed to rain here in Boston this weekend.
Blondini
http://www.blondini.wordpress.com
June 16, 2009 at 8:56 pm
okay that is awful, i would have been annoyed too. and as a bride to be with the same +1 dilemmas i’m glad you were okay with it, i’m worried some of my friends won’t be when i tell them they can’t bring anyone. but hey they’ll know plenty of other people there. and i won’t try to set them up with gay guys, haha. wow.
June 16, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I think you may being a little too gracious, my dear (as you are prone to do…
). She could have at least asked if you may have a date– if they can afford a chi chi wedding, then they can afford a +1.
I hope you still have fun, though. It can definitely be awkward hitting weddings solo (I’ve been there), but at least you have Hotness to commiserate with and look at!
June 16, 2009 at 10:48 pm
Are you serious?!?!!! Wow thats a new one.
As PP said, at least you have someone hot to look at, even if he’s gay. Maybe he can spot you a hot guy on the grooms side!
June 17, 2009 at 6:56 am
wow, that\’s kinda funny… At least you have someone to hang out with though, she was probably just thinking that you guys would get along well.
June 17, 2009 at 7:46 am
Ouch! How cruel to get your expectations up and dash them all at once! lol. Note to self: hot guys are nearly always gay…or married…or have kids
June 17, 2009 at 8:15 am
wow. yeah that would annoy me. did she know this BEFORE she emailed you? maybe she was hoping you two could spot out the hot ones together?
June 17, 2009 at 9:15 am
As a bride to be, the whole +1 dilemma stresses me out. Since we’re paying for our wedding ourselves, we’ve gone according to the following rule: If a friend is single, they don’t get to bring a date unless they are traveling from out of state. If they are in a relationship but it’s not serious (ie: not living together or dating less than 6 months), they don’t get to bring a date. It’s tough, but dude, money is tight!
On the other hand, that was tacky of her to do that, since, you know, he’s GAY. Gah!
June 17, 2009 at 9:36 am
How disappointing and… kinda weird. Hopefully Hotness will be very entertaining and you can scope out the sexy single guys together heh.
June 17, 2009 at 10:01 am
Way to raise your hopes and dash them. Open bars and cute single men = why weddings are fun. Oh, and cake.
I’m sure you’ll have a blast!
June 17, 2009 at 1:07 pm
What was the point?! Ahh…how aggravating.
June 17, 2009 at 6:38 pm
wellllll at least she was thinking of you? and who doesn’t love a gay sidekick for the night? keep positive B
June 18, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Definitely agree with everyone else- but he’ll still probably be a ton of fun, and it’s always fun to have a hot guy to dance with. And following her no +1 rule, there’s definitely going to be a ton of (hopefully hot) single guys there who otherwise would have brought boring dates. Right?
June 18, 2009 at 12:13 pm
Hey, at least you’ll have a dance partner for the night
July 26, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Maybe you can convert him? At worst you can dance and whatnot.